Monday, March 12, 2007

The Sunday Curse

I don't know what the deal is but I feel like we have a black cloud hanging over our house on Sundays. They are never the relaxing, recharge for the week ahead days that I imagine in my head. As often as not G-man and I end up disagreeing about something and spend the day in our separate corners. The kids sense something is wrong and either act up or are clingy. The crappy day then leads to no sleep Sunday night making Monday no treat either.

Its just been in the last few weeks that the pattern has become so clear to me. I have no idea how to fix it. A few weeks ago we played hooky from church, I had visions of a relaxing Sunday together as a family with nothing to do, no pressure to accomplish anything other than to relax. Maybe that is pressure in and of itself?

I feel crappy today over things that were said yesterday. I don't know how things got there, let alone how to make it better. It is frustrating beyond belief.

Anybody out there in the blogosphere have a similar pattern? Advice for breaking out of it?

16 comments:

aimee / greeblemonkey said...

I just completely block out the fact that I have to go to work on Monday. (Sorry, no really suggestions).

Mitzi Green said...

oh, YES. we often have that problem. i think it's leftover from when we were kids and sunday was the kiss of death. i always thought it was just me, until my husband confessed he feels the same way.

sillychick said...

It seems like with us, it's every weekend. I don't know if it's because we get to spend so little time with each other during the week or what...but we get on each other's nerves after awhile!

Lately, we've been letting each other do our own thing. We seem much nicer if we're not constantly together.

I think, too, that we get so caught up and trying to get everything done that didn't get done during the week...all in a span of 2 days. Where's the relaxation in that? So, my last piece of advice is to put down the vacuum cleaner. Hah!

I'll be getting my psychiatry degree from Phoenix online soon.

g-man said...

I hope we get it resolved soon, I need the sleep. I love you.

Builder Mama said...

Well, I can honestly say that on Sunday afternoons more often than not we end up on seperate floors of the house with Monkey Man going between the two of us most of the afternoon. We each enjoy having time to ourselves, and typically we will swap off a few hours on who gets kid duty.

It's not perfect, but it's the only way we end up not ripping each others' heads off. Saturday is family day, Sunday is recovering from "family day".

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Heather said...

It does make me feel a bit better to know we aren't the only ones...not that I don't want it to stop, soon!

joansy said...

We've had good luck with each of us taking one kid and spending the afternoon apart and then meeting up for dinner - I like the one on one time with the kids and it's a good change of pace. And sometimes we drop the kids off at my mother-in-law's house and go to a movie (no talking required, which is sometimes a good thing).

Good luck - those ruts can suck.

yerdoingitwrong said...

We do the same stupid thing on Sunday. It bugs me, too! If there's one day of the week we're going to bicker it's on SUNDAY. It must just be the pressure of the chaos starting again on Monday, but I'm glad it's not only us!!!

Rachel Briggs said...

so our pattern too. Drives me crazy. I think it's tiredness and expectations... we both work full-time in fairly stressful jobs. Saturday is all about relief that the week is done, and we usually have a great day, quite busy. Sundays I'm restless because I want ot "do" something, and he's in sleep mode because we had a busy Saturday.. Reality sets in and we often waste the day. My answer? Occasionally, go do my own thing. Just for an hour, maybe. I just think the tiredness of the whole week of juggling job, kids, dogs etc catches up, when you least want it too.

Who knows?!

Esmerelda said...

No advice. Just {{hugs}}. Mondays and Tuesdays tend to suck for me.

MPPs Mom said...

we have had the market cornered on sunday curses for years. I would love to know how to snap out of it!!
Christina

Gretchen said...

Take Monday off.

Oh...

Or have a loose plan of what to do: church, lunch, maybe rent a movie or scout out a new park.

Something we do is discuss what 'we' want to do. Like my husband may want to touch up some paint or have time to work out. I may want to have some 'alone' time and go to the book store or the gym.

Generally when we discuss what we want, we have a better weekend.

I think the hardest part of Sunday is managing the expectation.

Anonymous said...

Maybe it's the time of year. Everyone has a little cabin fever by the time March rolls around. Something about not being outside enough and what not.

hugs to you Judy

Lynda said...

Is it the same issue over and over again, or a different issue? Can you find time for just the two of you to talk things out calmly and rationally?

I am not really sure except to say what I said on g-man's blog. I write things out a lot. (On paper, not my blog. LOL)

Tree said...

I'm sorry, Mama Maven & G-Man. I think W and I have come to a loose arrangement by default. He sleeps in, I get up and spend some good morning hours with the kids one on one. When he wakes, he takes and I go for a run. When I return, we usually have a late lunch. He then plays soccer and is gone for 2-3 hours. Sometimes, I take the kids and we watch his games (N plays).

Really, it's like what many have said already - we tend to do our own things, but we also recognize what each person "needs" to feel like they had a good weekend. For dh, it's sleeping in until 10 a.m. For me, it's a good long run. It is minimal, but it works.

Good luck. Do you have a plan in place for this weekend?